Friday, September 19, 2014

OMG...Jealously??

I reactivated my Facebook account to get on the local classified page.  I happen to see that one of my friends rented a stretch limo for her kids' birthdays.  Guess how old they are?  5 and 8!!  Wtf?  I immediately felt a bit of jealousy.  This friend is the "perfect" mom.  Her kids are in several activities and are just the perfect little kids.

My kids are wonderful, BUT not perfect.  Currently they are not in any activities.

I deactivated my Facebook account right away.  I don't need to feel like that and I do feel that FB is one big competition.  Paint the perfect life for everybody to see.

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  1. People only post what they want you to "see" about them... I myself don't go on FB to rant & rave about my sh*tty days... I have friends "IRL" who get to enjoy that side of me. hahaha! But I think if you sign on and feel jealousy like that right off the bat, it's probably not the place for you. That being said, gotta take the good with the bad on FB. lol!

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    1. I know. The crazy thing is that we are probably in a place that I could afford that and I would never do that. Chuck E Cheese was a huge splurge for my little girl's birthday this year.

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  2. Well take comfort in the fact that by the time they are teens she'll have little monsters who will EXPECT stuff like that all. the. time. ;-)

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    1. Yeah. What do they even do next year?

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  3. The weird thing is that I'm not a jealous person usually. I guess it's just this friend who pushes that card for me :(

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  4. Is she a real friend? Is she someone you really like? If not, take her out of your list quietly and if she finds that out "how crazy! you don't know how that happened? Facebook must have a bug or something..."

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    1. This is something to think about. We did used to be real friends but she is so annoying about our kids. Our daughters are less than 2 months apart and she never ceases to stop bragging about her child. All of my friends love their kids and we all talk about them all the time. She just manages to take it a step farther.

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  5. FBI can bring out emotions that's for sure. But instead of thinking about what you Would or would not do, recognize and ponder why you feel jealous? Is it because her kids are in activities and you wish yours were? (Then get them in something?) is it because she has disposable income you don't ( take action on your own choices). Ultimately, this person is being judged by you for posting about her choice to celebrate her kids. A limo can be less expensive than a bounce house party, and you have no idea what led to that choice or what battles she is facing. The wordy thing about Facebook is the judging that it brings out in everyone. It's like seeing someone in the elevator.. If you asked how their day was and they ranted and complained, would you ask the next time? No, that's why people say oh I'm fine and move on... Most of us don't need or want to dwell on the junk that comes along with all the happy moments! So perhaps instead of being assured that her kids will grow up as entitled monsters as one comment above implied, think about your own reaction vs judging her.

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    1. My reaction was terrible. I recognized that right away and deactivated my FB account. However, this friend is over the top and I am judging her.

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  6. Well, I would judge a friend who did the same thing for a kids birthday party. I actually hid (not blocked) a friend on Facebook. This is a real life friend, but she definitely made me envious. She structured her entire career on fitness, and was always posting marathon pictures, and photos of herself working out, etc. I know it's ridiculous, but i have a super time intensive corporate job sitting at a desk, and went through a life stage where I was envious. She just posted that she's getting a divorce, and now I feel horrible. Maybe she needed all of that to get through a very difficult life phase, but I could only see one side - what she wanted people to see.

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    1. That's the hard part about Facebook--very one sided.

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  7. Trust me darling, her life ain't perfect.

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    1. Believe me, I know but thanks for the reminder, Kim.

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  8. Your kids are the lucky kids. Hers will never appreciate anything unless she ups the ante every year. I feel sorry for them and her for what she is trying to do--make people feel bad by bragging.

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  9. Oh my dear, I wouldn't have been jealous of her. Good grief, what in the world is she doing to her kids? A limo at 8 & 5? What are they going to expect at 13, 16 & 18? Holy moly. Thank your lucky stars that you are NOT like her. :)! And I agree with Kim, 'her life ain't perfect'.

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